Have you touched someone and made a healing difference? Do your loved ones come to you when they’re hurting? Can you sense the right thing to say or do to facilitate instant change in difficult situations? If so, remember the doorway to becoming a healer, to paraphrase Rumi, is round and open, people are coming and going across the doorsill, and unless you are vigilant it will close with you on the wrong side.
Here’s the Rumi poem, “Don’t Go Back to Sleep”:
“The breezes at dawn have secrets to tell you
Don’t go back to sleep!
You must ask for what you really want.
Don’t go back to sleep!
People are going back and forth
across the doorsill where the two worlds touch,
The door is round and open
Don’t go back to sleep!”
As you’re reading this, I imagine you’ve awakened to a desire to, and/or recognition you already can, be in healing relationship with others. The dawn of this awakening is like being told a secret in that you need to keep it to yourself. Like a Shaman accepting the role of healer for his or her community it is something one should see as coming from grace and not as identification. Indeed, people are going back and forth across the doorsill where the two worlds meet, healer one moment failure the next. As Shamans say, “Sometimes the magic happens and sometimes it doesn’t.”
Olga Kostrova, the founder of PhysioEmoDynamics Institute has created a form of healing that is more science than magic. Not mysterious energy work or conversation based therapy, but powerful, cleansing emotional release. Olga, my teacher and now wife, has developed and used on many others and me a healing approach (see her framework here) where failure is not an option. True, physical healing in the body might not always occur to any visible degree, but emotional healing happens instantaneously after each intensive, and tangible results are experienced – lightness, peace, the bondage of anxiety and depressive thoughts is broken. The powerful release of emotions often leads to dramatic recovery from physical malfunctions, but that’s only a by-product.
Used in conjunction with other modalities the PhysioEmoDynamic System serves to release trapped emotional energy that’s blocking change or fueling negative behaviors. The freedom and lightness allows individuals to experience in their bodies how freedom feels and reinforces the possibility of lasting transformation as they experience other modalities.
You must ask for what you really want. Are you humble enough to handle the never-ending learning curve? Can you dis-identify with every thought and feelings named mine and recognize any power you manifest as a gift and never a possession? If so, then you can have the nothingness that it is being a Shaman/healer.
Sit down, strap in and face your desire to be special, spiritual, sacred, superior, sensitive. Throw it all away! You must ask to know and not be fooled by that soporific part of you that craves attention, wants to be right, needs to be needed and thus tries to put you back to sleep. Staying awake to these ego minions requires endless vigilance, painful self-examination, complete ownership of your responsibility to stay awake when everyone else is sleeping. Do you really want to be feeling and releasing the energies of fear, sadness, anger, shame, illness, grief, betrayal and confusion? Do you really want to know the horrible details of your inhumanity reflected back at you in the experiences of others? You must ask for what you really want!
The door is round and open and it’s so easy to slip into ego desire and aversion, making clients the “other” and subject to your high-minded judgment or a means to your economic end. The big round hole offers our minds room to label others because even those one is nurturing expect it. Also and maddeningly, clients will seek to disengage just as you’re finally approaching their core issue. There is plenty of room in that hole for your ego to judge, parent, teach, control, rescue or preach your way back through the door. If in any way you ever start thinking healing is about you, you’ve failed. So do you really want to “be a healer?”
So, to summarize, what it means to be a healer is:
- You understand “you” are not a healer.
- You understand healing sometimes happens through (or despite) you.
- Whatever is happening is not about you.
- You have no choice but to do the work.
- Willingness to feel and process pain.
- Willingness to be constantly healing yourself.
- Willingness to be constantly dis-identifying from your ego.
- You will ironically be alone much of the time.
- Willingness to be patient, compassionate and understanding.
- Willingness to be challenging, assertive and demanding.
- Willingness to be completely present and actively listening to advance the process.
- Willingness to be completely unattached to outcome.
- You have to have right tools and framework to facilitate the transformation.
- To have a chance for both – a fulfilling hobby and a lucrative meaningful business.
So, what do you want? Still want to a “healer”?
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